I have a 6-week old baby and started back at work this week . Its been really hard , I feel guilty?

I feel guilty because I am away all day , I am working full-time with no option at this point to go part-time. Any suggestions for coping with missing my baby all day? He is in good hands , my mother babysits and my aunt, but its still hard..I have a 6-week old baby and started back at work this week . Its been really hard , I feel guilty?
Start off calling every hour and a half the first week, then every 2 hours the next, until you ween yourself down to 3 times a day. I'm sure you know you are fortunate to know that he is with family, and not just sitting in some carrier in a strange daycare all day, and I do know it is difficult for a lot of parents. I think checking in frequently is necessary early on to reassure you that he pretty much sleeps most of the day, and he will eat even when you are not there. Best wishes!I have a 6-week old baby and started back at work this week . Its been really hard , I feel guilty?
Just remind yourself that this is what has to be happening right now. They have webcams where you can watch your baby on-line. My friend does this %26amp; she loves it because she can talk to her children %26amp; sort of be w/ them during the day.
its always hard leaving a new baby, but its necessary in so many households! it can have its perks though...because being away from your baby will make you miss him, so the time that you spend with him in the evening will be quality time! its good to be able to miss your children. this will also prepare him for school, so the transition will not be difficult! you should be proud that you are doing what you have to do so that your son can have everything he needs...and some of what he doesnt need...lol!! you are also very lucky to have family to take care of him...thats so reassuring that he is getting the very best care!! i know how hard this is...but it will get easier...good luck and god bless!
I am sorry that you have to go back to work.


It is just a hard thing. I am glad that your Mom and Aunt are caring for your daughter.
donot feel guilt about going back to work i have
I am sorry to hear of your situation, please enjoy your baby when you do come home, and hold him and snuggle - be happy that he is in really good hands and pray that your situation changes. you are a good mom. remember it is quality not quantity
There is no way to cope. You were meant to take care of your child, not anyone else. When you give up your responsibility as a parent, it's natural to feel guilty. The only way to calm your conscience is to stay home and raise your own child. Your job as a parent is WAY more important than any occupation!
Brainstorm how you can get out of this financial bind so that you can spend more time with your baby. It may mean some type of job that you can do from home.





It's natural to feel this way--missing him, after you have bonded so closely for six weeks (and the 9 months count, too!).





You are fortunate that you have the wonderful option of family helping out, but you've got to show them, in some way, that you're not just taking them for granted, or they may continue to help for the kid's sake but resent you if they think you are not doing your full part.





Best wishes to you!
ask them to email you updates on the baby throughout the day. I cried for like a month all the way to work when i had to leave my daughter. (stayed home the first year).





it will get a little easier. Mine is almost 10 yrs old now and i still have those feelings...her being in school makes me feel better.
I understand how you feel, and believe me the guilt and sadness will pass. As the baby gets a little bigger and you see that he is happy and content with grandma then you won't feel so bad. Right no, know that you are doing what is needed to provide for his every need. That you his fearless Mommy is out there getting it done FOR HIM!! You are the source of everything for him including income. Just think of the benefits of what you will be able to provide for him. You have him being cared for by your mother and aunt tow people who probably know the angst that you are feeling. talk to them and see if they have any suggestions to help you through this time, and if you need to call and just hear him in the background, then feel free to do so. If you take these steps and still feel that it is unbearable, then maybe you can see if when there might be an option for you to get a job somewhere else PT, or with a very flexible schedule. Just some food for thought. take care and know that you are doing the best that you can!!!
omg yu should go part time if you real guilty


you should wait liek 2 months or somethin
Consider it this way: you're going to work so that you can provide for your baby, and that shows just as much love and commitment as actually being there. What if you stayed at home to be with him, but then couldn't buy him food or pay for shelter?





He needs you for many reasons, and going to work fulfills a lot of them. Besides, I think the fact that you're concerned about this indicates largely that you're a good mother.
Oh sweetie of course you are going to feel guilty. Welcome to the world of motherhood. This is not going to be the last time that you feel guilty about something being a mother. Ask any mother they write the book on guilty feelings. I am sure you already have tons of pictures of him at work. You can also set up a video cam that your Mom or sister (in-law) could film him and send to you via the Internet. I hate to tell you this but it doesn't get any easier, You will always miss your child when you are not with him. Ask any parent. The best that we can hope for is that we learn to cope with it and stay productive at work. Congratulations on your new son.


PS this is for anyone that says she shouldn't be working. Unless you are willing to go and pay her bills stay out of it. Not all of us can sit on our laurels eating bonbons and staying with the kids all day.
Aww, I feel your pain. I too, went back after my maternity leave, and I was sick over it...Try keeping a picture of your little one near you, and take a small article of clothing w/ you, place it in your bag and once in a while, take a sniff of the article...(it sounds wierd, but that's what I did on my numerous trips to California on business) Then if all else fails, call home, lots and lots of times!! Tell you mom/aunt to place the phone next to the baby's ear and sing to him/her... or just plain 'ole listen to your baby's breathing... Hope this helps..


P.S. -I eventually worked from home, is that a possibility for you?
Please don't be hard on yourself. Thank goodness for childcare you can trust! To cope, maybe you can keep a photo album of the baby at work. Or, if your cell phone records video, take some video footage of the baby and sneak a peak at work.... I'm a working mom of 2 (my youngest is 4 months), so I can definitely relate!
since you already know your baby is in good hands, just make sure you spend quality time with him whenever you're with him. carrying pics of him hardcopy or softcopy in your mobile or if you can, shoot a short video clip of him laughing at playtime and play n replay as many times as you want. moreover, you're working now to add support him financially for his education and expenses, which is good, in the long run. keep it up and be a happy mum and so will your baby boy, cheers :)
if you have a computer you could set up a webcam so you can see him. or is there any way that you can work from home? don't worry too much about feeling guilty though, once he learns to talk and walk you'll be hoping to go to work.
It is great that you have family watching your child. I don't know what kind of work you do but it is clear that are educated. My daughter sells home loans from home and has a babysitter come to watch him. There are other jobs you can do from home with a phone and a computer etc. However, beware of scams. If you have to pay money it is a scam. An example of a scam is a claim that you can do hospital billing from home, just send us money or take our course. She started at the office and was then set up at home. She can travel and still operate. Her calls are forwarded to her cell and of course she has a laptop. You sound like a good mom. Good luck.
the feelings you are having are hormonal and instinctual...find a way to stay home, for at least a year...i stay home with my kids and my husband makes like 1500 a month...we make it, we just do not buy new stuff...the new stuff can wait for later, your baby needs you now
Don't feel guilty. You have to do what you have to do. Just think of it this way...Your showing him how to be a responsible person by taking care of your family and holding a job. He may not remember but...





If you can't do the whole web cam thing pictures are always good too.
You're supposed to work. Having a baby is optional.